Best of May 2020

I’ve read 13 books this month and this was the best one out the bunch:

From Goodreads – “In the midst of a family crisis one late evening, white blogger Alix Chamberlain calls her African American babysitter, Emira, asking her to take toddler Briar to the local market for distraction. There, the security guard accuses Emira of kidnapping Briar, and Alix’s efforts to right the situation turn out to be good intentions selfishly mismanaged.”

It was really tough for me to chose throughout the month because there were a lot of great books in my life but once I read – Such a Fun Age by Kiley Reid, I knew. This was the BEST of the bunch. I thought it was beautifully, cleverly written. I was cringing and tense in my belly the whole way though and while that sounds like a bad thing, its really not. Read it. You’ll see what I mean. Highly recommend.

Best song cover:

Now normally, I hate this song – thanks Tik Tok- but this version…oh this version is GOOD!

Best Chef on YouTube-

Bruno makes me laugh and laugh and laugh. He’s got such a quirky charm.

Best Toddler :

My boy! I love this kid. Even if he did throw dirt at me, break the toe off my iron crow and put a banana in my water bottle.

This baby!

I’m getting to know her better, bit by bit. She’s still a wee Sprite. With very strong lungs πŸ™‚

Best Bug:

This ladybug who stayed on my hand for a good 10 mins after I rescued it out of a puddle! So cute.

This Song Dog:

Who I spotted from afar but whom neglected to spot me. I was expecting it to notice me and keep moving. It IS a wild animal after all, it’s senses are supposed to be WAY sharper than mine! Colour me surprised when I came around the corner and it was RIGHT THERE. The poor thing jumped three feet in the air then ran franticly towards the traffic. I stopped walking, went still and the coolest thing happened! The coyote stopped too, turned to face me, then trotted off away from the road. Crisis averted! And a cool animal encounter was had ❀

Best Breakfast:

My Hubs makes the best Eggs Benedict. ❀

Best New Friend:

Meet Skitter! Skitter lives on my ceiling and is such a funny little creature. She likes to make herself completely flat and while I never see her move, she’s all over the place. It’s fun to wake up each day and see where she’s gotten herself to~

Best splurge:

Halibut was on sale, so I bought myself a good chunk and made myself fish and chips for dinner as a treat. Those 4 bits cost 15 bucks but OH WOW, it was worth it! I could eat halibut every day….sigh…if I were rich, ha!

Best surprise:

I was out at the doctor’s and noticed a sign. Thinking it had something to do with COVID procedures I stopped to read it and it said ” Please DO NOT feed the goose!”

Goose?! I thought in a panic and looked below the sign:


Lucky for me, she was busy and not feeling threatened! She didnt pay me any mind πŸ™‚ The video doesn’t show it clearly but her eggs were luminescent! Like pearls ❀ I was so grateful she a. didn’t attack me b. let me watch while she tended to her very important business. It was a special moment ❀ I’d never seen that before!

How about you? What’s on you Best List? Lots and lots of stuff I hope! ❀

Sh*T List May 2020

I know I sound like a broken record when I say this but I’m saying it anyway: Where did May go? How is it possible for time to just zoom by like this?

May Shit List

  • Relativity.
  • Opioids and the doctors that prescribe them to children in a care free, willy nilly way. ( This is how my 19 year old nephew died )
  • My shoulder which seems to be permanently disabled.
  • Myself, for losing the power cord to a very expensive camera!
  • This worm for crawling right in my path, trapping me in the car.
  • Allergies.
  • The person who assaulted this 84 year old woman out watering her lawn. There’s video footage of the douche bag. Check it out, see if you know him then report his ass.
  • Any weather from the North that continues to INSIST UPON ITSELF in May. Go on, get out of here! Don’t come back until December.

Aaaannnnd, I think that’s it!

Not too bad for an entire month. I’m finding this practice therapeutic and positive. I know! Doesn’t that seem counter intuitive? Seeing things that make me mad, in print, takes away their power and clears a path for other things. Like grief and humour. Like acceptance and resiliency.

How was your month in this regard? What is making you mad these days?!

Things I’ve learned… (#3)

since the last time I did this exercise which was in November of 2019.

1. People ARE fantasically creative helpers. Sure, there are a few bad apples but mostly we are all decent human beings. Here is an excellent written piece that covers it all in greater detail. I touched on this in March but it bears repeating : A Pandemic restored my faith in humanity! We can do good and we ARE doing good. I just love us!

2. I have a lot of specific skills that were sure under appreciated by both my former self and society. But wow, those skills are valuable now!

3. Bergamot is a fruit! I somehow thought it was an herb or a root…I had no clue that it was a citrus fruit until I went searching to buy some to add to my tea. Too funny!

4. You can make yeast out of so many things! Potatoes…dried fruit…I’ll be giving this all a try in the coming days. And posting it all here of course!

5. I’m an introvert so while extroverts were freaking about not being so social anymore, I was laughing. I was BORN FOR THIS! I haven’t suffered nearly as much as my more extroverted peers. But then as the weeks passed, I noticed that I was REALLY looking forward to grocery shopping. I was extra,extra chatty with the poor cashiers and other shoppers. I realized this: I still need human interaction. Fuck! My social needs for other humans may be less than other people. But I still need them. Shocking.

6. Whisky and Pepsi is as good as Rye and Coke. The Pepsi is light tasting enough so as to not over power the whisky. Plus it doesn’t go sickly sweet when it warms over time. I have always been a firm Coca Cola girl but ya know…Pepsi has its place.

7. My boy is climbing his mountain of recovery with determination and good humour. I feel like its safe for me to meet him where he is and walk alongside him now. ❀

How about you? What have you learned lately?

April 2020 Sh*T List.

Can you believe we’re already nearing the end of April? Shocking!

It hasn’t been the worst month, pandemic aside but still, I’ve got some things on the ole shit list. Some pretty bad things too.

* If you’re new here, read about my Shit Lists HERE.

T.S Elliot was right, for different reasons.

β€œApril is the cruelest month, breeding
lilacs out of the dead land, mixing
memory and desire, stirring
dull roots with spring rain.”

Here are mine:

1. My Uterus. It has an agenda of its own and that agenda is to make me suffer. Sure the IUD has slowed the constant bleeding but everything else remains exactly the same. I’m >thisclose< to performing a home hysterectomy.

2. The person who was quick to remind and caution me, most pointedly, that my son- who has struggled with addiction- was once also a sparkly eyed curious little boy, when I was describing my grandchild as such. Like what does that even mean?! And what exactly was your intention? And how stupid are you? DO you really think all sparkly eyed curious boys grow up to become drug addicts? What exactly were you warning me against? And what did you expect me to do with said warning? Stop loving my babies? I’m perplexed…oh and also:

Now obviously I should be posing my questions to said person but I was shocked out of my gourd. Stunned. This is a person who is supposed to be a close friend. Anyway, this was a great reminder to watch my own mouth and be careful what I say and to remember that people say stupid shit all the time and may not mean anything cruel by it…but still, I am allowed to be angry and therefore…onto the shit list it goes!

3. The employee of my husband’s who came in to work SICK! It’s been 14 + days and we’re still ok so phew! Social distancing works. It was scary there for a little while though. Every sneeze and sniffle, every cough and tickle edged up the anxiety.

4. Whatever it was that killed my nephew in March. He wasn’t even 22. I dont know how he died – I’m no contact with my first family under the guidance of mental health professionals.- but it was described as sudden and senseless. What an awful, awful thing.

5. The 8mm mass in my daughter in law’s BRAIN, that is not only messing up her life but which also comes with some very scary risks for removal. This girl isn’t even 30 and she’s already had to deal with so much in her life. She takes superb care of my granddaughter and she’s sweet and loving and fun. I know life isn’t fair and nobody deserves this shit but still, I’m gonna say it- She’s been through more than her fair share already.

6. People not skilled in listening and/or reading comprehension who just LOVE to shoot their mouth off. Stop. Slow down. Pay attention and then respond. I know we all do this sometimes. I do it! And I cringe every.single.time I realize my mistake, ha! I’m talking about the people who are not so self aware and regularly “communicate” this way.

7. My little pup who is coyote bait but insists upon being outside constantly now that the weather is warm. In and out. In and out. Guess who else gets to go in and out? In and out? Yeah…me. And it’s not like she does anything important while we’re out there! No pees, no poos. She barks at random things…eats grass…chases bugs. All the while I stand there supervising. She is driving me crazy and I think we’re going to have to build a higher fence just for her.

She’s “guarding” the cookie behind her. This is a dog who barks and growls at Bison like she even stands a chance so maybe the coyotes should be scared of her!

Alrighty! That felt good! I got the shitty things out of my head and I’m ready to move on toward the good. Here’s something to ponder in the meantime:

Ha! Right?!

What would you put on your Shit List?

Everyone Should Keep A List (#7)

of all the little things they love!

1. My good health.

2. Shamrock Shakes and Surprise Fries from the Hubs.

3. This Boy and his silly sense of style:

4. The ability to deadlift. Get out of here sciatica!

5. Mangos! Especially scraping the flesh off the pit with my teeth!

6. This old cat.

7. My 13 year old Kenmore washing machine that is-touch wood-still going strong. Even after sitting outside, with water in it for 3 years.

8. This baby:

9. My peace, calm, wisdom and clarity:

10. Leftovers the next day!

How about you? Tell me all about the little things you love!

February Sh*T List

Every month I get the negative nonsense out of my head by compiling a Shit List. It’s great fun!

February has been pretty mild. Until I walked 5 mins after the fact into the middle of an unsecured crime scene/police SHOOTING, complete with cops walking around in a daze, ha.

Me to Cop One ” Uhhh, is it safe for me to be walking around the neighbourhood right now?”

Cop One ” No”

Alrighty then.

Here is my Shit List!

1. The Asshat who slipped a religious pamphlet into the box of yogurt I brought home from the grocery store. It’s bad enough religious assaults are inescapable in the day to day -especially in this province- but do you really have to molest me with your nonsense in the grocery store? Do you? And do you really think THAT is going to be THE THING that converts me ? It’s not. Here is a piece of advice from me to you: Stop wasting your time trying to “save” me and spend that time living your life as a shining example of love, respect and acceptance for all. Trust me, this will have a far greater impact on the world than your fire and brimstone bullshit ever will.

2. The cold temperatures!

I can handle the snow. I can even handle the ice because it means the temps are warm (ish) and things are moving towards the big melt. What I am DAMN tired of is the cold. Minus eleventy something degrees Celsius ? I’ve had enough of you! Get out of here. It’s warmed up slightly now but I know how this works…and I’m ever wary. Go away! The Spring sky doesn’t match the snow or the cold and its messing with my head.

3. Myself, for not realizing that if read down too far on the wiki page of a certain show I watch I may come across spoilers! Boooo!

4. Meth. Meth is the one of the reasons for the major crime surge in my neighbourhood. Last week, I walked into the aftermath of a police shooting! This was after the second violent car jacking of the day in my neighbourhood, to be followed by the whirlybird/dog take down of another car thief. All within a 3 mile radius. Then! Then! Then! The very next day, two kids got shanked at the mall 5 km away. My trauma injury is having a time. I am ready to GO OFF.

And there you have it! Not too bad for a whole month! I mean, the violence is bad enough for the month but if you take that out…this was a great month!

How about you? Who or what is on your Shit List?

Best of January-2020

I wanted to call this The Hit List, as a companion to The Shit List because it rhymes buuuut I don’t know…Hit List makes me think of other things and I try to keep my brain out of those bad neighbourhoods, ha ha!

I was doing this last year but I fell out of the practice. Here I am again, ever optimistic.

Best of January:

Well number one, this adorable piece of my DNA:

Olivia Angel-Lael. (!!) She was 6lbs 14oz and hardly gave her Mum any trouble at all. Of course I saw her hours after she was born- I had her brother for safe keeping and we all trooped in for a visit right away – and I got to snuggle her again over the weekend. It’s hard to get a sense of who a newborn is but thus far she is very chill and doesn’t seem to mind her tornado two year old brother, as he bounces around all over her. OV loves her and often pauses his very important toddler business to stop and give her pets on the hands, tickles on the tummy and kisses on the head.

I’ve read 9 books this month, am at 7% of my reading goal, and this was the best one out of the bunch:

Olive, Again by Elizabeth Strout. Number two in a series…I think…there is one before this one -Olive Kitteridge- its up to the author if there will be a third- ANYWAY, it’s a great story about one woman seem from many different angles along with a few other intertwining storylines and its just so damn human. A good read that inspired me to go easy on myself and others.

Best catalyst: The FLU.

I know, crazy right?! The flu brought with it a gift. It forced me to listen to my body and take time to just be. To do nothing. I didn’t want to be a miserable lump of ick the whole time and in order to do that, I just had to accept that I was ill, unable to do much and just sit with what I had. Be that books, tv, YouTube, or my sick ass self. It allowed me to do these things without guilt or shame and even though I was NOT having a time, it wasn’t all that awful. I was grateful for what I did have! I enjoyed doing nothing. I enjoyed the rest. I enjoyed the simplicity of it all. Not only that, it peaked my curiosity and I went on to learn everything I could about the subject and came away with a real appreciation for… well…everything! Finally, and maybe most importantly I didn’t experience any of that 900 days of January nonsense. The month flew by for me, woot woot!

Best purchase:

I drank a lot of tea this month – It was National Tea Drinking Month too!- and when my cheap kettle crapped out , I simply went back to the way I’d done it for 25 years before-boiled water on the stove in a pot- but I missed my kettle, even if it was crappy so when London Drugs had a sale, I treated myself to this. It’s glass. Yay! No more plastic leaching, ha ha. And isn’t that light so pretty?! I feel so indulgent, lol I’m still blowing my nose with toilet paper though. What is wrong with me?!

Best Game: June’s Journey

June’s Journey is a hidden objects game that takes you through stories as you move through each level or scene. It’s a fun little time waster that doesn’t leave you feeling like you’ve wasted time! Plus, it’s good for your brain and it’s full of stupid tropes you can laugh at.

Best Ted Talk:

SO GOOD!

How was YOUR January? What would be on your Best Of list?