How we met- He was a regular at the restaurant I worked at. I never got his order right because he always asked for onion rings instead of fries and specified “no tomato”. Who does that!? We still argue about that to this day, heh.
First date – We met up at the local skeevey bar and I was the aggressor. He was on my “list” and I was checking him off.
Age difference – One year, nine months and twenty one days. I’m the younger.
Funniest – We both have our moments. I could not live a life without laughter.
Loudest – Generally…me. But Hubs has the “Dad voice” that I just don’t have.
Most stubborn – We’re pretty even in this regard…thankfully, ha ha.
Falls asleep first – Me, because I go to bed at old lady time. Hubs, if we go to bed together… unfortunately… because then he snores and I have to listen to it!
Cooks better – Moi! But Hubs pays more attention to the fine details when he cooks so his food is prettier.
Most social – Meeeeeee! Not that I’m overly social. Hubs is pretty anti- social. Not that I blame him. I’m getting there.
Better morning person – Moi! I wake up early, even when I don’t have to. I cannot stand laying about in bed.
Best driver – Hubs. He is a professional after all…
Best dancer – Me but I’m not a dancer. Unless copious amounts of alcohol are consumed.
Best singer – Meeeeee. I’ve lost a tone in my left ear now though so that may not hold true!
His secret talent – Attention to fine detail. Persevering with fiddley projects that I’d have given up on long before.
My secret talent – Able to defuse tense situations intuitively/easily with humour and/or empathy.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Play along in the comments, if you are so inclined! ❤
I live in between two pretty decent sets of neighbours.
If you read my neighbour post last year for the A-Z Challenge you’d know this is a truly rare gift.
What makes these people great?
We all seem well matched in temperament, personality styles, communication and what it means to be respectful.
This is magic enough but in the Winter time something extra, extra happens:
By some unspoken agreement, we seem to have decided that whoever gets out there first, shovels the sidewalks. Sometimes its me or the Hubs, sometimes its the young couple, sometimes its the family next door.
Not a Winter day has gone by without one of us, shoveling the other walks along with our own.
No thanks are spoken, no mention is made. It’s our actions that are speaking loud and clear ❤
You know, those silly little things that only you find amusing. Those moments in life that give you a good giggle whenever they cross your mind.
Here are a few of mine:
The time I got stuck in a bean bag chair and had to work way too hard to roll myself over to an edge so I could get out, laughing my butt off the whole time.
Can you imagine trying to get out of this bad boy?!
The time I signed a birthday card for someone at work – Happy Birthday- Lael- and the people who signed the card after me starting signing it – Happy Birthday Lael! – Haa Haaa Haaa.
The time I laughed and felt my belly jiggle like a bowl full of jelly which made me laugh again sending me into an endless loop of laughing until I finally held myself still enough so my belly would settle down.
The time I rolled over in bed and found that my butt had eaten the sheets, ha!
Your turn! Do you have any inside jokes with yourself? Tell us in the comments! ❤
Since it’s February and everyone is going on about love. And since I’m a rebel and since I believe there is more to life/love than romantic love. And since I believe other kinds of love are even superior to romantic love, I bring you:
Love to Love, my theme for the month, where I’ll be sharing some of my loves, with gratitude and appreciation and of course, encouraging you to do the same.
I figure if I’m going to be assaulted by red hearts and roses everywhere in turn, I’m going to assault right back with my better version.
This is my 20 something year old daughter who in her own right is a damn fine human being. She’s loving and sensitive and kind. She’s always fiercely loyal and fiercely brave, once standing up for her older brother to an adult when she was 5 years old.
This girl taught me about love and kindness. Seriously. I learned it first through her. She is generous of spirit and I feel blessed to know her. I cant believe she’s my girl! It astounds me daily.
I’m thinking about her today because this kid recently paid me the highest compliment, two actually. 1. She says I can homeschool her kids if I want. (Guess I didn’t screw THAT up too badly, ha ha) 2. She’s offered me up to her friend in need for a Mum talk, because her friend needs a Mum right now and doesn’t have access to hers and I’m ” really good at those loving, supportive talks “
Melt my heart!
Of course I’m flattered and heartened by her words but more than that, she always seems to know exactly what a person needs and then she gives them that. I’m not an Angel person but if I were, I wouldn’t hesitate to say that this girl is a real life one.
I don’t know where she got it from. It seems to have come up through her from somewhere. I think it must be magic.
Just seven more weeks until Spring- Woot Woot!- Last year, I went out for the first time without a jacket on March 18…will I be that lucky this year? Who knows! But I’m ever hopeful and that hope is what keeps me smiling in these last months of Spring. Every Albertan knows this: the calendar may say its Spring but Mother Nature has her own agenda.
How do you think you’d do in prison? I think I’d do OK. I mean it wouldn’t be my first choice and I do everything I can in the everyday to avoid it but…yeah, I’m pretty adaptable.
The thought of this makes me laugh. I don’t hang out with too many people who’d require such a card and I’d certainly never send one- so mean! – but sometimes…The people. They are trying.
And just so you don’t think I’m a total asshole :
Teehee! My Rotti X had feet like that ❤ I hope she’s somewhere nice enjoying life like this. I don’t believe in heaven for myself but you bet your butt I do for my pets 🙂
And speaking of friends:
Oh! Don’t you just love this? My heart ❤ ❤ ❤
I’m excited for another month. I’m excited for Valentine’s Day. I’m excited/sad for Carolyn’s birthday. I’m excited for Ov’s birthday. I’m excited for my very first alone time visit with Via. I’m excited for the high sun and melting snow. Here’s to a lovely February. May yours treat you kindly and may you find joy in unexpected places ❤
I wanted to call this The Hit List, as a companion to The Shit List because it rhymes buuuut I don’t know…Hit List makes me think of other things and I try to keep my brain out of those bad neighbourhoods, ha ha!
I was doing this last year but I fell out of the practice. Here I am again, ever optimistic.
Best of January:
Well number one, this adorable piece of my DNA:
Olivia Angel-Lael. (!!) She was 6lbs 14oz and hardly gave her Mum any trouble at all. Of course I saw her hours after she was born- I had her brother for safe keeping and we all trooped in for a visit right away – and I got to snuggle her again over the weekend. It’s hard to get a sense of who a newborn is but thus far she is very chill and doesn’t seem to mind her tornado two year old brother, as he bounces around all over her. OV loves her and often pauses his very important toddler business to stop and give her pets on the hands, tickles on the tummy and kisses on the head.
I’ve read 9 books this month, am at 7% of my reading goal, and this was the best one out of the bunch:
Olive, Again by Elizabeth Strout. Number two in a series…I think…there is one before this one -Olive Kitteridge- its up to the author if there will be a third- ANYWAY, it’s a great story about one woman seem from many different angles along with a few other intertwining storylines and its just so damn human. A good read that inspired me to go easy on myself and others.
Best catalyst: The FLU.
I know, crazy right?! The flu brought with it a gift. It forced me to listen to my body and take time to just be. To do nothing. I didn’t want to be a miserable lump of ick the whole time and in order to do that, I just had to accept that I was ill, unable to do much and just sit with what I had. Be that books, tv, YouTube, or my sick ass self. It allowed me to do these things without guilt or shame and even though I was NOT having a time, it wasn’t all that awful. I was grateful for what I did have! I enjoyed doing nothing. I enjoyed the rest. I enjoyed the simplicity of it all. Not only that, it peaked my curiosity and I went on to learn everything I could about the subject and came away with a real appreciation for… well…everything! Finally, and maybe most importantly I didn’t experience any of that 900 days of January nonsense. The month flew by for me, woot woot!
I drank a lot of tea this month – It was National Tea Drinking Month too!- and when my cheap kettle crapped out , I simply went back to the way I’d done it for 25 years before-boiled water on the stove in a pot- but I missed my kettle, even if it was crappy so when London Drugs had a sale, I treated myself to this. It’s glass. Yay! No more plastic leaching, ha ha. And isn’t that light so pretty?! I feel so indulgent, lol I’m still blowing my nose with toilet paper though. What is wrong with me?!
Best Game: June’s Journey
June’s Journey is a hidden objects game that takes you through stories as you move through each level or scene. It’s a fun little time waster that doesn’t leave you feeling like you’ve wasted time! Plus, it’s good for your brain and it’s full of stupid tropes you can laugh at.
Best Ted Talk:
How was YOUR January? What would be on your Best Of list?
I used to think that in order to be a sunshiny, sugar sweet kind of person, I had to avoid all things that were negative. Life quickly taught me that was an impossible task! And so I found myself obsessively hiding the ugly stuff in life. Or glossing it up with lies and excusing it with pseudo science and platitudes.
For the LONGEST time I thought there was something wrong with me!
Why aren’t any of these positive thoughts working on any of my problems!?!?!?!?!?
Then as I delved deeper in my practice and I learned that all humans suffer. That suffering is a fact of life and a shared experience for all 7 billion of us, I felt great relief but I was still stuck with all these negative feelings. What the hell do I do with them?!
Well, the first thing I do is feel them.
And then…I put them on my Shit List!
There is something therapeutic about acknowledging the negative and then letting it go.
Sometimes, it comes back. That’s fine. Onto the list again. A shit list is actually a great tool to have because it:
Gets the negativity out of your head.
Helps you uncover patterns and serves as a roadmap to your challenges.
Validates your feelings OR shows you when you’re being a dumbass. ( The power of print! )
You can put anything you want on your list. People, experiences, objects, forces of nature. Whatevs. It’s all appropriate. We’re just making note of things that caused us suffering so we can acknowledge the negative and then… let it go.
With all that in mind I bring you: January’s Shit List
1. Alberta’s current government.
2. The creeps who prowl my neighbourhood, destroying and stealing property they go.
3. Mooshum, the worst watch dog in the history of watch dogs.
4. The Flu, which not only got me but gave my 2 year old grandson a febrile seizure and tossed my 5 year old granddaughter into the hospital with pneumonia.
5. Carl’s Jr. who ignored us in the drive thru,leaving us to sit there for 5 minutes before we drove away. I was really craving a burger too. Grrr!
6. Wimpy cough candies. Why even bother making your product? Ricola, I’m looking at you.
7. Myself, for being a mindless, careless knitter and a clueless human. This is a whole post in itself.
8. Animal “rescues” who operate more like pet stores.
9. People who rain on your parade. Yes, Janice I know getting your finger pierced is probably am exercise in snagged fingers but LET ME HAVE MY THING! And Oh, I’m sure owning and operating my own business would be a lot of work, let me find that out for MYSELF instead of gracing me with your “expert” advice. Do you think the thought never occurred to me? What exactly is your point and what are you trying to prove?! It seems like any time I have an idea, share something cool on social media or make note of something unusual, there is always someone there to take a giant steamer on it. Get.out.of.here.with.your.negativity!
10. Advertising in Alberta: First, the phone message from The Brick – a large furniture store- who regularly calls to advertise their shit over the phone. This time, instead of the usual ” I’m so and so from The Brick!” in used car salesman voice the message was as such- ” Hi! How are you?!” long pause…as if the person were waiting for your response even though it’s most obviously a recorded message” Ha ha, just joking this is so and so from The Brick” Go Fuck Yourself with that stupid shit!
Then there’s this gem:
I don’t live anywhere close to this neighbourhood! WHy are they sending me this and what does that photo have to do with teeth?! I hate capitalism.
11. My left ovary which feels like it has a cyst that’s trying to burst.
12. Unripe sapodilla’s that pretend to be ripe according to all sources but when you cut into said fruit of lies and take a big old bite out of a fruit that cost you 4 whole dollars, it so astringent that you have to spit it out into the sink and rinse your mouth out over and over again to repair the damage.
There, that should do it. One rant for every month of the year, ha. I feel better already. How about you? What’s on your SHit List this January?